Love is….

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.~1 Cor. 13:4-7


Everyone knows this “love” chapter, even those who do not even believe that God is real. It is used at most weddings and quoted all of the time. And this word is TRUTH…but this love is not the same love that you have for your dog, or chocolate, or golf, or well I think you get it. There are 4 types of Love…

  1. Storge—empathy bond

  2. Philia—friend bond

  3. Eros—erotic bond

  4. Agape—unconditional ‘God’ love

In the English language we have the word “love” and that covers it all, in the Greek language there are different words for different types of love. In the world today just through music, movies, TV and social media we have really lost the meaning of LOVE, we have made it cheap, meaningless, and sometimes very dirty. But then there is “pure love” and that only comes from God’s heart.

All four of these kinds of love create perfect, balanced, pure and holy love. Men usually think in terms of “eros” love and confuse the others. So men, let me say this to you… without God’s perfect, pure and holy love in your heart, it is impossible to love your wife in perfect love, you will usually determine your love by only one area. Learn about His love and learn how to love Him first and foremost. Once your understand, once you fall in love with Jesus, once you understand His love for you, once your heart is filled, and the MOMENT He is more important to you than your wife, it is at that moment that your will be able to love your wife with the love of God and YES that includes “EROS” love. In fact if your wife is love by you through the love of the Father you will be shocked in what happens.

This is a struggle most men have in their life, in their marriage and in their walk with the Lord…. why? Because we are MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Allow me to be very candid with you, if you are not satisfied with your wife, marriage, and all the issues try this. Take 30 days and refrain from sexual activity with your wife. For those 30 days on a daily BASIS ask God to show you LOVE, how to LOVE, why to LOVE, and to help you fall in HOLY LOVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE, PLEAD with Him, go DEEP into the Word daily, make it a journey and lastly, DO NOT DO it to make your wife happy, but to change your heart. I know some men get weird when they say “fall in love with Jesus” but in the end that is what your entire life boils down to.

Now go out and have an EPIC day today


….as Jesus

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. ~Eph. 5:25-27~


Most men know this verse or at least this concept in Scripture, most men would say that we are to love your wife as Jesus loved the church and He died for the church. But it’s really so much deeper than that even though it’s hard to get much deeper than dying for someone. LOL the truth is sometime we feel that if we died to prove our love it would be easier.

Jesus gave himself all-in to the church, why? “ He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and with out spot or wrinkle” verse 27 – washed BY the cleansing of God’s Word!! I often as a young man wonder what that actually means…. “wash with the Word”

A husband should most definitely take the initiative to seek and establish for his wife a healthy, spiritual, home/marriage/family environment that helps her to cultivate her own sanctification via the leadership of Christ. He (the husband) can’t do anything to add to her salvation (that’s impossible) or to make her more sanctified (he doesn’t have that authority). As her protector, he should see that the evils and temptations of the world doesn’t enter into his home and corrupt him or his wife and family. He should see to it by helping her with her daily routine that she has adequate time for her own personal Bible study and prayer and they should have a husband-wife study time. He should lead by example in modeling Christ in his home.

Christ was a servant – as well as a Savior to the church. It’s from the heart of a servant that a husband will see to it that his wife is protected from evil and has opportunities for spiritual growth. He is to view his role as head from the perspective of Christ or else he will not be effectively leading his wife into being holy and blameless.

And last I would like to leave you with this thought, where is Jesus now? He sits at the right hand of the Father INTERCEDING day and night for the church!!! Men are you praying for your wife in private? In most marriages the wife is in her prayer closet praying for her husband. Where is your prayer closet? How much time do you spend praying for her? Going to God on her behalf?

Now go out and have an EPIC day today!!!!

Iron Sharpens Iron

As iron sharpens iron,
    so a friend sharpens a friend.~Prov 27:17


As men we get the lone ranger attitude at times, we love the Lord but we don’t need anyone in our business, don’t need other men knowing our stuff, our problems, our weaknesses. A few problems arise in our lives when we end up in this place, first we just open our self up to the attack of the enemy, you know the one who is out to KILL YOU!!! Destroy your life, your marriage, your relations with God. Secondly when we do have problems with our marriage of others around us, we go to other men and “complain” about it and when we do this it is just pouring death into an already bad situation. Instead of getting your brothers to pray for your marriage you wife, your children they end up with anger, contempt, and a negative view of that person.

As brothers in the Lord we are called to uplift one another, to pray for one another and to hold one another accountable in ALL area’s of life. Here is a truth that we all need to hear, know and walk in……. Your marriage will only be as strong as you are, your church will only be as strong as the men of the church, your workplace, the city your live in, the state you live in, and well I could take this out a lot further. IF the men of God would ever get a hold of this and become what they are created to be, take the role God has created them for the WORLD would be turned upside down. IRON SHARPENS IRON plain and simple.

Have a man or men in your life that will sharpen you in your secret places!! And have a man or men in your life that you will help sharpen!

I can tell you after walking with the Lord for 35 years, being in ministry for over 23 years I have had TWO men that took that role on with me and I will always be indebted to them. But that’s IT, I have gone many seasons with nobody. When it comes to accountability the men of God really have dropped the ball. It starts with YOU!!! Are you in?

Have an EPIC day today boys.