Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.~1 Cor. 13:4-7
Everyone knows this “love” chapter, even those who do not even believe that God is real. It is used at most weddings and quoted all of the time. And this word is TRUTH…but this love is not the same love that you have for your dog, or chocolate, or golf, or well I think you get it. There are 4 types of Love…
Agape—unconditional ‘God’ love
In the English language we have the word “love” and that covers it all, in the Greek language there are different words for different types of love. In the world today just through music, movies, TV and social media we have really lost the meaning of LOVE, we have made it cheap, meaningless, and sometimes very dirty. But then there is “pure love” and that only comes from God’s heart.
All four of these kinds of love create perfect, balanced, pure and holy love. Men usually think in terms of “eros” love and confuse the others. So men, let me say this to you… without God’s perfect, pure and holy love in your heart, it is impossible to love your wife in perfect love, you will usually determine your love by only one area. Learn about His love and learn how to love Him first and foremost. Once your understand, once you fall in love with Jesus, once you understand His love for you, once your heart is filled, and the MOMENT He is more important to you than your wife, it is at that moment that your will be able to love your wife with the love of God and YES that includes “EROS” love. In fact if your wife is love by you through the love of the Father you will be shocked in what happens.
This is a struggle most men have in their life, in their marriage and in their walk with the Lord…. why? Because we are MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Allow me to be very candid with you, if you are not satisfied with your wife, marriage, and all the issues try this. Take 30 days and refrain from sexual activity with your wife. For those 30 days on a daily BASIS ask God to show you LOVE, how to LOVE, why to LOVE, and to help you fall in HOLY LOVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE, PLEAD with Him, go DEEP into the Word daily, make it a journey and lastly, DO NOT DO it to make your wife happy, but to change your heart. I know some men get weird when they say “fall in love with Jesus” but in the end that is what your entire life boils down to.
Now go out and have an EPIC day today