Why wasn’t I taught this as a young man?

I am doing this study on Song of Songs, to be honest I would have NEVER EVER thought about going into this book. My wife told me 3 years ago that I should…..but I just blew it off and did my thing. My life has changed so much over the past 2 years…in every area. My relationship with the Lord is completely different now and I see Him so differently now.

As most things my view of this book was a lack of any understanding of it….why no understanding? I am not sure but I know my understanding of the Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit are so different now that this book can make sense to me now. As I am going through it I can’t help buy think that if I knew this stuff as a young man my life may have been so different!! Then I realized my sons do not know this!! I did NOTHING to teach them, show them, help them, mentor them!! (it’s not too late now) This is one more reason the family unit is SO important…. a man should be grounded in the Word of God, knowing who God is, knowing His heart, His thoughts, knowing how He feels about me, how He loves so deeply, unconditionally, even in our sin!! We must have a revelation of who we are to Him!!!

    1. Our identity is determined by the way we define value or measure success. “Who am I? How do I become successful?” The issue of our function (ministry) is important but secondary to this.

    1. Our primary identity (value/success) is found in who we are in our intimacy with God, which consists of being loved by God and in being a lover of God. I confess, “I am loved (by God) and I am a lover (to God/others) therefore, I am successful.


    1. We find our identity or success in being desired by God and in loving Him instead of seeking our primary value in how much we accomplish or the impact we make. We are most successful because we are desired by God and love Him. We no longer need to fear being a failure.


    1. Our primary identity is not what we do with our hands but what we pursue with our hearts. Seeing that we are His rose and lily breaks a sense of purposelessness, failure, and inferiority. We measure our success in context to how much we grow in our intimacy with God by loving and obeying Him. It takes revelation to see the nobility of loving God and how it matters to Him.


    1. We must agree with God’s definition of success. Many agree with lies about what success is and thus, feel like a failure and live aimlessly. They focus mostly on externals (what they do and possess) instead of internals (who they are to be in their hearts). They view their life in context to their struggle and lack of impact. Jesus corrected those who put their ministry before loving God.

3[you]…have labored for My name…4…I have this against you…you have left your first love. 5Remember…from where you have fallen; repent…or…I will…remove your lampstand.” (Rev. 2:3-5)

    1. Paul taught the truths of Song 2:1, that we are betrothed (engaged) to Jesus and live in devotion to Him. Our ultimate destiny in this age is to walk out a lifestyle as His inheritance.

2For I betrothed you to one husband, so that to Christ I might present you as a pure virgin. 3I am afraid that, as the serpent deceived Eve by his craftiness, your minds will be led astray from the simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ (2 Cor. 11:2-3, NASB)

 My life is about ONE THING — being the bride of Christ!! All else has very little meaning or lasting value. Once we understand this and it’s in our hearts….our marriages change, our families change, our friends change and pretty much everywhere you go you make a difference without even speaking… there is NO legalism in this revelation….there is total purity with JOY!!!

My success is not based on my status in this world.


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